Making An Offer On A House… And Getting Rejected

For the past few months, my boyfriend and I have been searching for a home… searching, and searching, and searching. Don’t get me wrong, I am very thankful that we are in a position to be on our way to homeownership, and going to showings and open houses can be fun, but, come on already, I’m ready to start packing my bags and move our stuff into our new humble abode.

Pack Bags

We’ve come across some pretty nice houses and some not so nice houses. We’ve found a couple that we’ve considered putting offers in on, but for different reasons, decided to continue searching. Now, I’m not a very patient person, so you can imagine how I struggle with this process quite a bit. Each time we view a house, I imagine myself living there before I even step foot on the property. I find myself saying things like, “oh, that picture frame I have would look perfect on that wall right there, I would paint those cabinets, the couch could go right there and the table right there and the TV right there” while I scroll through pictures online. But, after leaving each in-person showing, my picture frames, couch, table and TV would remain in my “new house stock pile” while we move on to the next one. Honestly, the only way I can describe it is like dating. You meet someone new and all of a sudden you’re asking yourself if they would make a good husband, picturing what your kids would look like, what colors you would have at your wedding and wondering if your parents would approve. It’s easy to get disappointed when you have certain expectations for homes you’re about to see and they turn out to be not as great as you hoped.

Buying a Home

Our luck seemed to have turned around one Saturday. We came across this cute little ranch in an amazing neighborhood a couple towns over from where we live. This listing was a little unique in that the seller listed it at a ridiculously low price on purpose just to see what offers they could reel in. The listing read something like, “All offers due by Sunday at 5pm. No counter offers will be accepted. Highest and strongest wins Sunday!”

I’ve been trying to adopt the mentality of “what’s meant to be will be” to spare myself the heartache and disappointment my high expectations lead to, so I didn’t think much of the house while looking at pictures. I didn’t want to spoil my whole “meant to be” attitude. But, that quickly changed when we walked in and everything was perfect. I mean, the place was absolutely immaculate: fresh paint, new floors, a new roof, so much closet space, just the right number of bedrooms, a huge basement, granite counter tops, I could go on and on. We all agreed that we needed to put in an offer ASAP.

Homes with great kitchens

Luckily, my boyfriend’s mom is our real estate agent so she definitely has our best interest in mind. We signed the paperwork, she sent everything in and just like that, our first offer was submitted. A million thoughts were running through our heads. One minute we were saying, “well, if it doesn’t get accepted it’s ok, it wasn’t meant to be,” then the next thing we were talking about was how we would add on a garage and put more cabinets in the kitchen, finish the basement and install a patio. We were all over the place.

Just thinking about the fact that our offer could be accepted the next day and we could be well on our way to a new house made us so anxiously excited. We thought, finally, the search is over!

Sunday at 5pm rolled around, and I pictured the seller and their agent sitting at a table reviewing our offer, talking about how we would make great buyers and choose us. I must have checked my phone every five minutes. Well, 9:30pm came quickly and still no word. I looked at the house online and noticed as of six minutes before, it changed from “Active” to “Contingent.” I don’t think my boyfriend has ever called his mom so fast. I was shaking. I felt like I did when I was opening my acceptance letter from college. This is it, I thought.

The search is over

But, it wasn’t it. They went with another offer. Seriously? I felt so many emotions all at once – disappointment, relief that I knew the decision, aggravation of having to continue the search process, sadness, loss, motivation to keep going, faithful that something would turn up.

It’s like when you meet that person for the first time, you think you’re going to live happily ever after, but you soon find out they will not be a part of your future.

While I am still a little disappointed that we didn’t get that house, I am trying to keep the faith that we will find our house soon. It’s still funny to think back to when we would have little awkward discussions about when we were going to take that next step. It started with an apartment and now we’re talking about a mortgage.

Getting the key to new home

Even though it didn’t work out, putting in that offer taught me some things that may help with moving forward with this whole process, especially how to deal with another rejection if it comes along. If you’re in the same position as me, maybe they can help you, too.

Don’t spend time wondering why it got rejected. You may never know why your offer got rejected. The fact is, it got rejected. The more energy spent on figuring out why, the less energy you can put into moving on from this house. Leave it in the past and move on to bigger and better things, like checking your real estate app for the 47th time today.

There are other fish in the sea. There is a reason that this house didn’t work out. If you’ve had an offer rejected, remember that the house you’re meant to be in is out there, and when you’re meant to find it, you will.

This is only the beginning. An accepted offer isn’t the only thing that stands in the way between you and receiving the key to your new place. There are so many other steps to get through, and anything can happen. There’s a home inspection, an appraisal, and oh right, actually getting approved for the mortgage. Learn to be patient now, expect the unexpected and try to keep your sanity in the meantime.

A house isn’t an end all be all. Both of us live with our parents. Neither of us want to live with our parents. But, at the end of the day, we are both healthy, both have good jobs, amazing and supportive families and each other. More time spent searching just means more money saved and more stories to tell.

Are you in the home search stage? How is it going for you? Comment below and let us know! If you haven’t made it that far yet, read here for a guide to the beginning of first-time home buying.


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